💫The Golden Rule of Love, Compassion, & Self care 💫

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💫The Golden Rule of Love, Compassion, & Self care 💫

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“How you do anything is how you do everything!” ~ T Harv Eker

When we recognize this for ourselves this naturally radiates out & extends out to all those around us!

My personal confession…
I haven’t always been as compassionate for others as I claimed to be.

Heck, I wasn’t always that kind to myself so how could I know how to express it!?

At the same time, you could see my desperate for acceptance, connection/love, recognition, & validation from others through my actions.

I mean, I had always been a meat eater while claiming to eat animals.

It took me some serious searching within to recognize my own hypocrisy.

This was exceptionally humbling because I see how we have to walk this life in Conscious Awareness in all that we do, think, & believe.

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What is it that motivates us?

Why is it so difficult for us to accept that what we all truly want is to connect & feel loved in this life?

Why do we allow external sources to influence what we all innately know in our hearts to be true?

Right now our stuff is really in our faces!  Whether people want to admit it, or not, we all have our inner demons we wish we didn’t have to be confront with.  The key is to accept them, confront them, & work on healing them.

If we claim to want to be accepted for who we are, why not see that that’s simply what we all are?

How compassionate are we really if we can’t even step up & accept ourselves!?

That’s really where it all begins ~ with Self!

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“If you cannot see God in All, you cannot see God at all!” 

~ Yogi Bhajan

Watch the full video here:  https://youtu.be/6T5mpu6KGdQ

~**~ May you see your own Godliness reflected back in all you see with Love, Compassion, & the tenderness of Self~Care through Awareness! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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💫The Wisdom of the Mind💫

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💫The Wisdom of the Mind💫
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One of the biggest lessons I received in 2016 was how I was able to recognize through self-inquiry & reflection on my Mind; the old thought patterns & beliefs were confronting me but this year I tuned into them & witnessed them for what they were telling me about myself!

I had to see that when my Mind went into so much of a tailspin, it really simply was my Ego. My Ego could turn my feelings about how someone treated me or failed to show up for me the way I wanted them to by making it all about me when it never had anything to do with me at all!

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Thinking, continuous thinking caused fears & illusions to pop up that were unfounded & wasted precious time & energy!

It was what caused my suffering & depression taking me out of my Personal Power!

My Ego simply wanted to be acknowledged because that is how it perceives Love to be – through a certain ideal experience; my Ego Mind wanted to receive Love! The truth is that it doesn’t know what Love looks like or truly feels like because it has kept a distant view… taking in only what has been around me or seen in movies, books, sensationalized…

The Ego doesn’t really experience anything but instead acts as a watch-guard. It sees everything through the filters of your experiences & watches as you react or respond to them as they come waiting for that moment it has to launch forward in your defense because its purest of intentions is to protect you from harm ~ physical & emotional!

Love is all around but looking for or expecting it to be a certain way was getting in the way.

My Ego just needed & needs to be embraced more & allowed to see Love in All! ❤️

“Honoring & Meeting Yourself/Others where you’re/they’re at!”

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What is Judgment?
Simply defined, “it’s when you come to a conclusion or have an opinion…evaluation of evidence to make a decision.”

We are all judging based on our own life experiences ~ this is not the truth we all know but our individual truth!  When someone tells you their experience, it doesn’t make it fact of all who were involved because we all can have been involved but never ever have the same exact experience as anyone else!  It’s just that our Ego looks to relate & connect with others through experiences.

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“Sometimes my inner child really just wants to be heard while my inner wise woman recognizes this & holds the space allowing her to vent because ultimately She knows what is needed to heal & how honoring that gives way to release! My inner wise woman is able to witness knowingly & allow my inner child the space to BE with what she feels….because my inner wise woman is Aware & knows it is all perfect as she accepts herself at all stages throughout her life!”

I truly witnessed myself wanting & needing to be heard at different stages throughout the year & this was humbling as I was also able to recognize it in others as a result.  In fact, it made it even more profound when I was able to hold space to connect & truly listen to others who also needed it!

“It’s through the Awareness & Acceptance of All of You that the healing begins!”

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~**~ May you find Clarity, Peace, & Abundance from that place deep within your Heart & Soul!  May you become fully Aware of & Accepting of You! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

💫 An Honest Share 💫

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💫 An Honest Share 💫
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As much as people want to think that I am the spiritual strong arm & nothing bothers me, I’m still human & sometimes my feelings get hurt!

I have my strengths & weaknesses just like everyone else!

I am extremely hard on myself ~ even more so when others point out or remind me of my shortcomings!

Over these years I’ve spent my time working on Me & my deep traumas/pains, patterns, & behaviors. It certainly hasn’t been the easiest ride. It has definitely been insightful, rewarding, frustrating, & vulnerable but I also see the beauty in how those around me have benefited & grown on their own through my changes…

It’s brought me closer to family because I see patterns I inherited/learned causing me to be humble & have compassion for this awareness.

To see what others are unable to see because they’re not yet ready to see but with hope that when their time comes, they will – in their own time & not what I would “want or expect” them to!  We didn’t figure it out overnight ourselves so we need to honor each person where they’re at now.

Truly, life may not be the easiest but it certainly doesn’t need to be as difficult as we make it.

We just need to be patient, kind, & loving towards ourselves, as well as, others!

“Let your Breath dictate the Breadth of your Life! The more conscious, deeper & fuller your breath, the more fulfilling your life! Let your breath expand within & your life …”

Its in the experience you’ll find your freedom from suffering!

“Return to the root of the root of your own self.”
~ Rumi

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~**~ May You be Blessed with new & exciting insights into YOU & Your Truth! BeHold your Heart with Love, in Love, as Love! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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See the Pattern

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💫“See the Pattern” ~ Recognize Your Patterns 💫

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We are Creatures of Habit because it’s comfortable to stay in the known even if it’s uncomfortable!

This is how change starts! The only way change can occur is for you to initially recognize in yourself what it is that holds you back from change.

So, first you must be aware of a particular pattern that keeps you stuck in the same routine, habits, mundane, familiar…

Then, just observe how it comes up in your life…Repeatedly!

Is it a reaction to an emotion?
Is the pattern simply a routine that is not yielding you joy in your life?
Is it an addictive pattern?

Now once you have identified the pattern, simply witness it without judging it & ask yourself:
“When did this begin? From what point did this pattern originate in my life?”

Sit with it, keep asking yourself questions to challenge why it exists…
Journal what comes up as a cathartic healing & release of old wounds! 

You’ll build even more awareness as things you might have forgotten also begin to surface for you!

Ask yourself “how is this serving me?”

How can I release this pattern for something more fulfilling?

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You have to recognize that every pattern/habit/routine serves us in our life but it’s important to see when it’s past it’s “expiration date & efficacy” in your life!

“See the Pattern?”

One of the main things that people get upset at is they assume others should just know their boundaries/limitations. When in fact, they don’t even know for themselves.

So when a person feels like someone is taking advantage of them, it’s mostly because they’re expecting the other person to recognize when enough is enough [for them]…or when they should stop imposing. That idea that people should just “know”…doesn’t serve anyone because it’s uncommunicated!

The reality is the individual just keeps on giving without recognizing for themselves when enough is enough! 

What is the underlying drive that causes them to keep on giving?

Simple – they want to be liked & accepted!

Those that claim they do it from their heart but still get upset, have an expectation of something in return… So, it is not as genuine as they claim.

True genuine giving has no strings attached!

We all want to connect with, feel loved & appreciated by others!

The pattern to recognize & ask yourself is whether or not you are compromising your self in order to feel validated, liked, or accepted by others.

Do you give without expectation or do you do it for something in return?

Don’t let the mind trick you into thinking you do  if you’re still getting upset by the giving!

Expectations are our own self-created saboteurs causing us stress, pain & suffering!

Here’s the deal:
We all have those friends we claim let us down. But just like the saying goes the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over & over again still expecting different results…

It’s the same in the way we think! If we continue to have the same thought patterns, we will continue to experience the same unwanted repeated experiences…

Example of this is:  You have that friend who you claim lets you down but you still hope for them to prove you wrong while also still holding onto the reminder of their past behaviors – this is creating a conflict in you & since you’ve been let down in the past by them, you actually are looking for them to do it again – this is where the Ego Mind also feels superior when they do & points out, “See, I was right!  I told you they keep doing…”

See the pattern for what it is telling you!

It’s not the person doing this to you because they’re just being who they are (Integrity & Character) & making it clear what their patterns are.

The bigger thing is for you to recognize your own patterns of thought & how you respond to them!

Then, for you to change how you respond to what you recognize as a pattern in another & accept these people where they are without holding those expectations which continue to let you down against them or yourself!

Watch Brain Waves & Brain Coupling ~ Jason Silva

What I gleaned in the short 3 minute video on Brain Coupling was simply how it has been scientifically proven to show that the brains of 2 people who connect deeply with one another will actually synchronize to one another. There is no coincidence in this but to see science proving how we’re all connected brings us closer to accepting our influences through the energy sent out via thoughts.

So, if you respond differently to another person, you also are sending out a new brainwave to disrupt the repeated thought patterns shared & also giving a glimmer of something new that sets the domino in motion! 

What do you think?

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Pay attention & recognize your patterns!
What are your motivations behind what you do?
Tap into what drives you ~ let yourself be elevated & inspired…
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~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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💫Soul Flow💫

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“Let Go & Relax!  Go with the flow of your Soul!”
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We aren’t here to live this life in the seriousness of constant struggle, pain & suffering.  We’re here to live a life of joy, fun, laughter, & love!

So what is it that has made it so darned complicated?

Since when did the choice to be right overtake the choice to be happy or to love one another versus competing & putting them down?

The US was founded upon the Freedom to choose – in all aspects of life!  Albeit, there are many historical events we will never know & some brought to our attention were not what we’d been originally told only to learn history is altered to protect people’s interests. 

Why all the lies, the deceit, & distrust?

Who can we trust?  
Why do we resist what we know in the deepest parts of our beings?

Let’s not regret our choices by placing the focus on what we think we should do or have been conditioned to believe is the right way/path to follow!

“Those that fail to learn from history, are doomed to repeat it.” 
~ Winston Churchill

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We want to Free our Ancestors from their mistakes – they were unable to change their choices & provided plenty of examples of regret & remorse for them… Let’s not finish this life with regret for what we wished we had done & just do it!

Don’t you want to make them proud by making a better life for yourself as they would want for you!?  
To build a the life that they had actually hoped for themselves but lost sight of by being caught in the trap of old paradigms & ways of thinking!?

Wind it down – the Mind! Pay it no mind… Unravel & Unwind the Mind!

If you’re meant to be somewhere, do or have something, you’ll arrive to it in perfect time!

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Return to who you are & Remember what it feels like to be in Joy! 💞
May you wash away lifetimes of legacy for generations to come…

Free Yourself to be You & Free us all to Be United as One!
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Love & Light Blessings!
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~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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💫🌟How People Connect🌟💫

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💫🌟How People Connect🌟💫

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Do you like me for me, what I can do for you, what I represent, or how I make you feel?

In any case, there’s no denying we like people for how they make us feel!

Sometimes it’s to feel a connection or to be validated for beliefs we may similarly hold but sometimes it’s superficial in belonging to a clique, association, group, team, political party, movement, passion, etc… but what draws us to those things?

They’re not who we are but part of what we’ve accustomed to or always known or done – sometimes something you were introduced to via family like a sports team or a political party or school alma mater.  It’s out of routine & comfort we steer toward these arenas.

This is the major reason many of us need to peel back layers in our lives to challenge our beliefs, habits, routines, & lifestyles. 


Do these things truly represent who I am on the inside?


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Am I simply looking to change things up to avoid going within to confront myself & any unresolved painful memories?

We’re all going to have our attachments to certain beliefs but the key is finding neutrality where you don’t feel the need to defend your beliefs to anyone else & to honor & respect another’s beliefs that may differ from yours. 

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Stop looking for the argument or attack of shaming another, let alone yourself for the sole purpose of elevating your Ego!

Wars are based on trying to impose one set of ideals upon an opposing group. 

Have you seen how that plays out?

A clue to it is ~~>     Have you ever seen a war that was “won?”  

No, because it’s a continuous fight for people to overpower others by imposing their beliefs upon them.  To dishonor, take power over, & try to force people into taking on the same beliefs. 

Nobody wants this done to them so, why do we do it to others?

There is no such thing as a war that has been won!

I’ve heard people mock the statement “Why can’t we all just get along!?”

Because the Ego is strong!  Rarely does a person know themselves well enough to even consider what is right for another person but funny enough, we have all been raised in way to take care of thy neighbor as if we should only ever think of others & then, we project ourselves (experiences, beliefs, & ideals) upon them to top it off.

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First you must learn Who You Are & What Drives You! 💞
Let that be your motivator & watch how you interact with people;
as well as, the tribe you feel you belong to.
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Love & Light Blessings!
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~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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💫Commitment to Change💫

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💫🌟🌼 The Commitment to Change 🌻🌟💫

Change takes Commitment ~ Dedication & Devotion to Self

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In any situation where you desire to have a certain experience, you also need to commit to it no matter how subtle it is.

We commit to our daily routines & habits unconsciously so in order to make changes that stick we need to consciously commit to & be dedicated to working toward them!

Want something?

How badly?

You have to want it enough to go through a complete metamorphosis where you challenge your own beliefs about what you feel is attainable & what you deserve (often we subconsciously or unconsciously don’t feel we deserve the one thing we want or desire). This often keeps us stuck in self-doubt & fear of even trying.

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“In order to succeed, your desire for success needs to be greater than your fear of failure.”

Meaning your Desires must far outweigh what you perceive & fear to loose!

We have all “surprised” ourselves with attaining, what we once believed, was unattainable at some point in our lives…

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Don’t give up before the miracle because if you’re working toward something that has taken a lot of time & has emotionally drained you, it typically comes to a head just before it comes to fruition…

Your own physical body can get antsy as does the mind as you want things immediately in your own time…

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It’s natural to feel like you’re “loosing it” as you near attaining your desires…

I’ve felt antsy prior to something I’ve been also been extremely excited about ~ what was excitement turns into anxiety & questioning myself.  But ultimately, that’s the inner fear of the unknown, of what it all will bring, sensing the unknown change on the horizon ….how things will unfold!

In the end, you have to commit to yourself… be willing to let go of your attachment to the idea of how you expect & want things to be or look like but to hold a vision with flexibility of how it will unfold!

Words require conscious action & not to be thrown around in a laissez fair manner … Remember they carry energy & if you aren’t intentional with your words, it’s likely you will fail to follow through with action.

Choose your words carefully & be consciously aware of your thoughts because this is when Integrity & Character come into question.

It’s how much a person can be Respected for their Word! Trust!
Can you be trusted?
If you don’t own your stuff, how do you expect to treat you?
Better yet, do you trust yourself?

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Nobody wants to be called a liar but that’s essentially what happens when our words & actions aren’t aligned!

Clear Communication eliminates the resentment & assumptions that come up…  It takes nothing to say you are unable to fulfill your promise… it’s tougher to avoid the confrontation of not fulfilling that promise later when you avoid it all together.

Again, your Desires must be greater than your perception of what you might fear to loose!

Maybe you don’t know what you want but you need to own it, search within for it, & when you do know, make it a priority!

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Remember Change is Constant & you have the opportunity to choose for yourself what changes occur in your life or put it up to chance waiting around to see what changes are forced upon you in the end!  I can only say from personal experience, the changes I have had to make were always easier than the ones I was forced to make.

Confront the situation before it confronts you!

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💞 Become Devoted to You! 💞
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Love & Light Blessings!
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~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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💫🌟 Life is Too Short ~ Be Vulnerably Authentic 🌟💫

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💫🌟 Life is Too Short ~ Be Vulnerably Authentic 🌟💫

Life is too short to sit back & wait for it to happen for you!

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At some point you need to take action & you need to communicate… You need to engage & interact with life!  You need to communicate your needs, wants, wishes, & desires, otherwise you suffer.

Release the fear of rejection & acceptance!

Release the need to be liked for being someone you’re not or the way they want you to be!

You need to express/communicate yourself or your mind will continue to haunt you.

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At least when you communicate with someone what it is you desire with or from them, you become aware of where you stand with them.

It can be a surprise that takes you off guard in a beautiful way or it can be a painful transition where you need to take a different course in your life.  But why stick something out only to hide away from what it is that makes your heart sing?

This is where people become bitter & resentful because they don’t know how to communicate what they feel they need.  They’re fearful of being rejected so they reject what it is they need in exchange for what they feel is acceptance…

It’s a lack in self-esteem & having healthy boundaries that keeps many in a pattern of painful life experiences. The only pain we are ever feeling is the delusions of the mind created through illusionary scenarios it has concocted based on the fear of repeating past experiences that were painful for us.

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The more we speak up & communicate with those around us, the more powerful we feel in our Self!

You don’t know unless you ask… What you don’t know can elevate you & the more you ask for what you need, the more self confidence you will build where fear becomes less of an influence & a driving force in your life!

It’s when we embrace our authentic Self in all that we are, express it, & let it be seen ~ the more we are truly Living!!!
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To be Authentic you must also be Vulnerable!

Being Vulnerable to feeling the ecstasy of joy as well as pain, experiencing life in all forms fearlessly because we have to be vulnerable to overcome our fears!

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Be willing to go outside of your comfort zone & allow whatever may happen without some idea of what it may or should look & feel like.

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Yes! Life is definitely too short to be wasted on the illusions of the mind & worries…  Focus only on what you can do.

Focus on your Soul’s Growth in Love & Compassion!
You will expand out from there uplifting all those around you!

Life is too Short to be caught up in what others expect of you or want from you! Don’t let your mind get you off track & into illusions that don’t matter. It will suck the life out of you literally!   And This is what exhausts us physically & emotionally!!!

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Focus on your Soul’s Growth in Love & Compassion!
You will expand out Uplifting those around you through
Your Inspired Living!
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Love & Light Blessings!
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~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

💫⚜💫 Keeping Up With the Times💫⚜💫

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💫⚜💫 Keeping Up With the Times💫⚜💫

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Be Love & Send Love to All! Radiate out Love & Leave Your Impression!
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Love & Light Blessings!
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~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

Impatience vs. Patience

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💫⚜ Impatience vs. Patience 💫

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Faith ~ Trust ~ Believe

Pour Love into everything you do! The things you do leave impressions long after you leave… So, make your Presence be well known in the Spirit of Love!

Let others be Inspired by your Essence!


“People may not remember what you said or did but they will remember how you made them feel!”

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Patience is being content in the Moment with what you already have!

Impatience is the disdain & negation of all that you have, as well as, the Moment at hand… It is the desire to want things different than they already are & being unable to Accept yourself as You Are…though consider that the Law of Attraction will keep bringing you what you feel in “this Moment!”

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If you are always living in the past or in the future, you will never find satisfaction or joy in the Moment because that is something within you! It is not outside of you & nothing external to you can make up for what you don’t already feel inside!  You carry it with you Always!

Again, Nothing Outside of You will make you feel what You don’t already Feel Inside! 

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~**~ Let everything you do radiate out Love & Leave Your Impression!
Live, Work, & Play In Love!
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Love & Light Blessings! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~