Transcend the Story!

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A Stream of Consciousness:

Call back all that you ever felt was “lost” of You & allow YourSelf to be Whole & Healed!
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I had begun to reflect upon how many of us have lived our lives habitually without question – day in, day out a routine that feels comfortable.  Only later, feeling a deep loss within, a yearning for something more; yet, indescribable, unfamiliar, and unknown.  What has been missing?  Why do I feel incomplete!? 

For me, I know I had many wakeup calls along my path. 

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Why wasn’t I married?  Because I hadn’t found the right person for me but moreso, I didn’t feel like the right person!  There certainly couldn’t be anyone who could complete me if I wasn’t sure of who I was.  I had to come to a serious breaking point and it was when I started to see significant patterns I was reliving from stories I had been passed down through generations – stories that certainly were not my own!  I witnessed how a relationship I had been in became a drama scene from my parents when I was younger and it wasn’t until I returned home in 2008 I was able to connect the dots.  I can attest it was the most profound, in my face, epiphany and all I needed to decide to make a major change in my life!  It was then I decided to start working on ME!

I wanted to change!  I had been living the mantras of my parents and it was all creating disharmony within me.  It didn’t matter how successful I had become because everything crashed in the end…I had to

be brought down to the breaking point for me to get the call to go within!

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Going within takes a lot of courage and for me, has taken over 8 years, to arrive at a peaceful place with who I am NOW!

I had to confront what I’ve done in my life and the motivation behind it.  What drove me to certain behaviors, beliefs, thought patterns, and reactions to certain triggers.  What were the roots of these?  What created triggers for me?  Who was I really?  

Ultimately, it’s been the patience, compassion, & awareness of watching how my mind operates.  In my case, I tend to overthink, over-analyze, over criticize myself and the choices I make or have made.  I’ve compared myself with others without recognizing my own strengths & uniqueness in an attempt to identify who I was ~ comparing if I were in the right place of my own life.  I found this was not living in my Truth!

We can talk about all the things which BEing in our Truth can be described by, like living with Integrity, Consistency, Demonstration of Character, Honesty, Love, Devotion, etc…but only YOU know if you are living from within your Truth!

I wrote about Truth here:  Sat Nam ~ Truth Is My Identity!

It turns out, we all have a Story we tell ourselves and may even continue to tell over and over to people we encounter in our lives.  But the questions we rarely ask ourselves is, “Is this really my story?  Is this the story I want people to know about me?  What is this story really saying about me?  What is the Truth for Me?  Am I living this story or seeking to write a better one?”

See, a story actually dictates your life and you get to choose how it unfolds.  The real question you want to ask is “How is this story serving me?”

If you find it’s creating repeated patterns where you are at a loss for life & joy, it’s time to really go within.  If you sound like a victim, why not rewrite the story to be the victor of it!?  You can do this!  You can transcend the past and create a much happier path ahead!

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I grew up with a rather intense mother.  I am grateful for her intensity because it did teach me a lot in communicating clearly; though, it did cause me anxiety over the years as she was so easily triggered by certain words.  It got to a point I was unsure what to say but even what I did say were things I normally wouldn’t speak would come out of my mouth to create an altercation with her ~ like she had such a strong aversion she actually manifested me to say them.  My father on the other hand, being very non-confrontational, would be the first to say something to provoke you and then the one to tell you he didn’t want to hear or talk about it and insultingly dismiss your need to address when he upset you.  You can only imagine our household of fighting – we had the button pusher & boiling pot ready to explode!

But here’s the thing I learned over all these years, they, too had adopted stories that were not their own.  I have more compassion now than I ever have after having gone through the waves of emotions.  I had to really get mad at the both of them for their behaviors before I could recognize they were doing the best they could.  They were just as broken, or at a loss for themSelves, as I was.  They were just unable to see it because they were still living those stories.

My Mom though has been trying to find Truth in her way. 

So, today I received a text message from my Mom.

“I Believed a Lie…               The first one…Was     I was not Important, of value-“

I responded with:

“Yes, & when we believe a lie, we live a lie! If we don’t believe we are important, how do we treat ourselves!? Then, we wonder why anyone else treat us so poorly!
I’ve been working on my self worth for years!
It is not selfish to take care of yourself first! It is the most important one you can take care of (your body is a temple & you are made in the Image of God!)!!!
We only have control over OUR own thoughts, beliefs, words, & actions!”
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When we believe a lie, we live a lie because it becomes our truth but in essence we are only betraying ourSelf – ultimately, our heart knows the truth!

Why did we give so much power to something that was not our truth?

Why did we betray our own heart – our intuition!?

We place value on others because we want to connect & be loved! 

We want to belong or fear rejection from them!  

This is where we loose our own self-worth & how we fail to listen to our Heart (in-tuit ~ Spirit)!

So often people want to trust another but the truth is they don’t trust themselves first!  You have to develop a strong relationship with yourSelf before you can discern truth elsewhere.  If you haven’t cultivated this most sacred relationship within, you will find you will deceive yourSelf more often by going without.

Your Truth can only be found within You! 

It’s all a coming back to Self! Self-Awareness, Self-Love, Self-Care, Self-Respect, Self-worth, etc…

How you allow the external world to affect you will all be reflected in how strong a bond you have with yourSelf! 💗

Later Mom responded to me with:

“Hence, Response/Respons-ability”

Unsure if it was appropriate, I posited:

“First to yourSelf, of course! 🙏🏻”

See, I’ve learned I cannot fix anyone else.  It is not my place nor my desire any longer. 

The subtlest form of control is thinking you know better for another person!

I can only control my thoughts, actions, and words.  As long as I listen within, have loving intentions, and come from my heart, I have done the best I can.  That’s all any of us can do.  My story has just begun to unfold and every day I learn what brings my Heart more joy.

Focus on the story you want to live and transcend all that you may have endured in your past.  If anything, use it as your motivation to start anew ~ You wield the power to create whatever life you wish!

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So, why not make your story a personal Love Story!?  Find that deep connection within & learn who you are, how your mind operates, the things that bring you joy, and regain your trust with yourSelf!

Return to the root of the root of your own self.”
~ Rumi

~**~   May You be Blessed with new & exciting insights into YOU & Your Truth! BeHold your Heart with Love, in Love, as Love!  ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

Why Not ~ Go Naked!

Set An Intention for the New Year 2016!

Embracing Inspiration

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A label is a mask life wears.  We put labels on life all the time. “Right,” “wrong,” “success,” “failure,” “lucky,” “unlucky,” may be as limiting a way of seeing things as “diabetic,” “epileptic,” “manic-depressive,” or even “invalid.”  Labeling sets up an expectation of life that is often so compelling we can no longer see things as they really are.  This expectation often gives us a false sense of familiarity toward something that is really new and unprecedented.  We are in relationship with our expectations and not with life itself.” 

~ Rachel Naomi Remen, Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories That Heal

True ignorance is ignoring a person for who they truly are and buying into your perception of them based on labels.  Might you be fooled by this mask?  Maybe you see a reminder of some familiar yet appalling aspect; you label itbased upon something from your own past, a…

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Embracing Inspiration

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A Stream of Consciousness from my morning Meditation:

When we go without, we suffer but when we go within, we know Truth!

Don’t mistake what you think in your head to be truth because this is where it, the mind, deceives.  A simple distraction to maintain its existence as the mind fears its own death. 

It’s in your Heart Truth is Known! 

What we Perceive we Believe & what we Believe we Perceive…

This is the Mind.

This is the Ego.

     It’s this head-based rationalizing that has been the root cause of all of our suffering; the heartaches we’ve endured have all been initiated and perpetuated in our head! 

This loyalty to thoughts based on illusions of our preconceived ideas and imagined reality is what has left our hearts in such a state of neglect and pain.

      We’ve allowed our head to dictate, overshadow, and neglect…

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My Personal Epiphany of Self-Love ~ Realized

Embracing Inspiration

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~*~ HappyValentine’sDay! ~*~

Although this day has become commercialized around the world, it is a day recognized for celebrating LOVE.  For me, it’s usually just another day because I feel love should be celebrated every day but not today.  Over the past 5+ years but more specifically, this month, life has had its twists and turns, sped up, slowed down, been frustrating, felt exhilarating, shifted in new ways, and just been a series of interesting experiences filled with a myriad of emotions.  This has raised many questions for me like, “What does this all mean?  Where am I headed?  What does my future hold?  When will this holding pattern break?  Am I THERE yet?  Am I doing the right thing?  Do I even know what I’m doing?  What if I’m doing what I need to? …

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Easy Does It ~ At Ease!

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 A Stream of Consciousness from my morning Meditation:

My mind was reflecting upon the word disease and it’s origins.  I felt the word Ease stand out as I was focusing on BEing in the Stillness with Ease Then, it struck me, a concept so simple yet, so profound! 

This word Easy originates from the word Ease and it means to be At Ease with what is! 

Ease  =  Comfort

If something is Easy, it’s because you’re at ease with what it is; you are comfortable with it!

Society and our culture have perpetuated Easy to equate to lazy when it isn’t – how things shouldn’t be easy – and we should always have to struggle and strive for what we think we want as even that’s been imbedded into our psyches through the media.  Would it really bring us the pleasure we seek if we worked so hard for it?  Interestingly, I can look back upon my life and see that I probably held on the longest and hardest to those things I felt I’d sacrificed myself to achieve or gain.  Meanwhile, for it to have come easy would mean it wasn’t worthwhile?  How absurd are we really to have bought into this?  How much resistance do we believe is necessary to live a meaningful life?  Well, apparently many of us have fallen victim to this false conditioning because I know I did!

When something “comes easy to you,” it really means you are at ease with whatever it is!  

Now, interestingly enough, from my own conditioning, I immediately saw how I had been conditioned to relate this word easy to mean lucky or lazy and irresponsible; using the word easy wasn’t a compliment.  Let’s face it, this world has perpetuated that “Nothing worthy comes easy.  Only hard work and effort pays.” 

From being told what is a reasonable career path to follow in life versus a gift or true talent that comes naturally with ease to being labeled or called cold because you can find neutrality and don’t become overly emotional in a situation where you can see it for what it is and are at ease with it.  Think of a time when you offered advice and someone struck back at you with “Easy for you to say!”  Not everyone has ease in what they’re dealing with or they would be in the flow.

What does the word Easy evoke in you? 

“Sometimes what is really hurting you is your own perception of things.”
~ Isaac Asimov 

If your life is what you perceive as difficult and you’re meeting resistance with what IS versus what you WANT, you’re most certainly not at Ease!  This is why it is called “Dis~Ease!”  The fact that you want something that is not currently available to you at this moment in time implies you have an attachment and expectation to something outside of what you have now!  It brings up the disassociation from your being present in this moment and being at ease with what is

Anytime we look ahead or behind what is in this moment now, we are basically ignoring and neglecting what is right there in front of us.  It’s at that moment you can see your discomfort with the Present and your lack of gratitude and appreciation for it.  

Whatever it is we may be unable or unwilling to confront in our current moment will only grow and fester if you don’t confront and process it in the moment you feel it.  You can’t force something away and suppress it because it came up for you to attend to it at that moment, without judgment or blame!  If it continues to be unattended to, it will continue to resurface and invariably prove to be more bothersome the longer it is ignored.  

You need to look at it & BE with it… Seek to know what it is you’re resisting and fighting… and, Why!

Why do you feel everything needs to be so difficult?  It’s not necessary.

Have you, like I, myself had, bought into the idea that nothing in life comes easy or how you must struggle with hard work to get what you want in life? 

This is the part where I found this exact belief implies we should be in constant struggle, in dis-ease fighting for what we want when the reason we have don’t have it is because we use the same resistance to block the flow & ease of just allowing it to BE! 

If you’re not able to be At Ease with what is, you certainly won’t be any more comfortable with what you claim to want and struggle so hard to get!  Anything that doesn’t come with ease has been forced and means it won’t last – whether you loose the interest after you’ve conquered or it escapes your grasp.  Power is innately within each and every one of us while force is the illusion of power used to speed up having it.  I learned of this when I read David R. Hawkins’ book Power vs. Force and you can find examples of it all around us – Force masquerading as Power over the masses where the masses so easily could take that power back in an instance.  It’s the Ego that has the hardest time with being at ease because it fears its own death.  It wants to control everyone and everything in its vicinity drawing in those who will bow to it. 

If you don’t agree with the Ego, it takes and makes things personal, lashing out attacking those who threaten its existence.  It knows if you don’t agree, it may be found out to be a fake, a phony, a tyrant trying to enlist loyalty to IT, not to the person or the situation. 

Without validation through agreement, the Ego looses ground. 

This is the Suffering!

The Dis~Ease!

The mind can only be at Ease when the Ego is dissolved.  The mind is meant to serve us and does provide insight but it is not meant to overrule the Heart as it has in this World – otherwise, war would not exist!   Again, if we were all at ease with what is, we would not seek out to impose our will (Ego) upon others trying to force them to conform with what we feel is comfortable for us!   One has to be able to improve himself long before they can ever affect another, let alone force their will upon them! Because that will is the Ego!  The Ego will never Be Happy!  It can’t because it collects servants only to want more… Isn’t that what Tyranny is about?

 

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So, I ask you, what is Ease for you?  What have you perceived to be Easy in your life?  Have you appreciated it or take it for granted – giving more gratitude to the fruits of your labored struggles?

How do you find Ease in your life?

What are you Uneasy or uncomfortable with in your life?  Where is your focus – on the Ease or the disease?   

Can you see how much easier your life would be if you focused on ease in your life now?  Don’t you want a life of ease? 

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To define a life of ease really simply means life flows without resistance.  Everything that you desire comes into your life in such a way it exceeds any expectation you could possibly have held.  Being at ease means releasing attachments to how you would like things to be.  It’s remaining neutral in moments where you recognize you are not in control and everything will be alright because everything is happening in perfect Divine Time.  It’s keeping that Ego at bay and treating yourself with respect and kindness because you know your Heart rules.  Easy does it was coined long ago and if you apply it to your life, you may just find it ultimately does!

“Easy Does It when You Are at Ease with what is!”
~ Lana A LaBonte

~**~   May You BE AT EASE and in the flow of Divine Grace every step of your life!
In Love, Joy, Peace, & Harmony!  ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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A Stream of Consciousness from my morning Meditation:

When we go without, we suffer but when we go within, we know Truth!

Don’t mistake what you think in your head to be truth because this is where it, the mind, deceives.  A simple distraction to maintain its existence as the mind fears its own death. 

It’s in your Heart Truth is Known! 

What we Perceive we Believe & what we Believe we Perceive…

This is the Mind.

This is the Ego.

     It’s this head-based rationalizing that has been the root cause of all of our suffering; the heartaches we’ve endured have all been initiated and perpetuated in our head! 

This loyalty to thoughts based on illusions of our preconceived ideas and imagined reality is what has left our hearts in such a state of neglect and pain.

      We’ve allowed our head to dictate, overshadow, and neglect the needs of our own Hearts!
Why have we allowed this inanimate Ego to enslave us to such lack of self-respect and perpetual life-degrading behavior?

How is it we have given full reign to our head overshadowing our own Heart?
Why do we treat our Heart so poorly?

In the end, it really is our Heart that knows and leads us to our desired Destiny.

Remember the times when you noticed how you allowed your head to lead the show despite having that gut feeling of a better solution only to realize later, that what you felt was right all along!?

THAT was your Heart telling you!

Why didn’t you listen?

You thought the head knew better?  ….but how many times has it proven this to be an incorrect assesses meant of its ability to serve and protect you?

Our Ego Mind is meant to serve us but we’ve turned it into a monster that we’ve relinquished control over to.  The only thing it has become is out of control with external influences, with distractions from seeing the Truth that is within us, and keeping us in fear of anything that threatens its existence. 

What if you woke up one day only to realize you had no control over anything in your life other than the way you reacted to it and experienced it?

Well, isn’t that the Truth already!?
We *think* we do have control but we really don’t??? 

This is the construct of our mind.  The idea doesn’t come from our heart but comes from our head.  My humor wanted to suggest you wrap your head around this concept.
Now, can you recognize when your mind goes off on a tangent?  That is you witnessing it.  Witnessing allows you to watch the antics of the mind, to see it’s habits, and learn the games it plays that keep you in a state of suffering.  When you witness, it gives you the insight and ability to make the changes at the moment you recognize the injustices of the mind – how it proceeds to resist your attempts to seek your happiness within. 

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We can only truly find our Truth within.  You cannot seek validation through others. 

To even depend on others is just as absurd because we’re all a part of a Divine Dance where some move with grace in the flow and synchronicity while others haven’t yet keyed into the natural rhythm and rigidly bump and grind with resistance to the symphony.  This is because we are all at different stages along in our journey.  Not one of us is at the same point nor ever could be where we can or could share the same experience, ever!

Though, the real simple Truth is the same for each and every one of us!

It is Love!

      Love is Truth!

There’s nothing mysterious about this at all except that we’ve denied it.  We all desire it and need it but the inflated head over heart way of living has suppressed this simple Truth!

The reality is we come in as Love and we die back into Love…the challenge is to live in Love!

The journey along the way is about returning to Love and each of us goes about it on their own Path of Experiencing the many contrasts of it.
The illusion is that we can’t have Love or that we have to earn it but then again, that’s the way the Mind has been conditioned.  Don’t fall prey to this lie.

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This time we are currently in will find us all learning new ways of approaching life.  We will be awakened to New Sensations!  If you haven’t already sensed this in your own life, you’ll notice you may even feel things differently than you have before.  Embrace it because this is an exciting time.  We are here in this life to EXPERIENCE it!  Stop trying to find ways to escape what you label to be good or bad but instead, seek to experience it. 

It’s in the experience you’ll find your freedom from suffering!

Return to the root of the root of your own self.”
~ Rumi

~**~   May You be Blessed with new & exciting insights into YOU & Your Truth! BeHold your Heart with Love, in Love, as Love!  ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

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Soul Communication ~ E-Moting is Energetic Motion

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The serious thing for each person to recognize vividly and poignantly, each for himself, is that every falling away from species-virtue, every crime against one’s own nature, every evil act, every one without exception records itself in our unconscious and makes us despise ourselves. Karen Horney had a good word to describe this unconscious perceiving and remembering; she said it “registers.” If we do something we are ashamed of, it “registers” to our discredit, and if we do something honest or fine or good, it “registers” to our credit. The net results ultimately are either one or the other—either we respect and accept ourselves or we despise ourselves and feel contemptible, worthless, and unlovable.”

~ Abraham Maslow from Towards a Psychology of Being


Emotions ~ as we ebb and flow through life, waves in sensations crescendo in our thoughts, actions, and reactions all based on these feelings!  Feelings that reside in the deepest part of us, our subconscious and in our core, our Heart.  How often do you acknowledge how they navigate you in every area of your life?  Do you realize how important it is to honor each and every emotion you go through?  Because our emotions are cyclical, they will continue to resurface until you sit face-to-face with each one of them, acknowledge, listen, and allow them to speak to you; to teach you about yourself and how to grow and progress in this life.  Suppressed and unresolved feelings only fester … 

It’s a simple Technology of the SoulWe just need to adapt to the language, learn the signs, and become master communicators with our Soul.  With this mastery we can navigate through life with ease and grace.

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Consider the Moon represents our inner world ~ our emotions ~ fluid like water and easily transformative from one moment to the next.  The Soul communicates to us via our Emotions (E-moting ~ Energetic Motion or Energy in Motion)But when the Ego detects feeling, dramatic scenarios of unreal events are concocted to facilitate illusions based on strong belief systems we’ve been conditioned with.  It believes it can and will control situations to protect us.  Sure, it has our best interest at heart and wants to serve us by protecting us.  On the other hand, our Ego thinks itself Important!  But that’s all it can do because it is not tangible nor can it produce anything physical.  

Everything about the Ego is an Illusion, even the good sounding stuff!  Sometimes it even wants to tell you what you feel by creating sensation in you through reliving painful memories.  Have you ever considered how sabotaging this is?

Don’t get caught up in any of this because it’s a distraction from what is being presented.  What is happening when your Soul speaks to you through your emotions is giving you this amazing opportunity to confront and balance the imbalance of this energetic motion – Emotion!  Imbalances in our feelings are there to show us the contrast, the glimpse into what doesn’t feel good or resonate with out Heart.  Like any duality, Positive/Negative, True/False, Masculine/Feminine, Yin/Yang…too much of one or the other throws us off balance.  Imbalance occurs when the energies are out of sync and you see one more than the other… this is why it’s so Overwhelming!  In fact, you may even recognize how when our minds are out of balance it’s the direct result of our unresolved emotions. Imbalanced Minds = Unresolved EmotionsAllowing emotions to fester only manifest dis~ease our physical bodies and the situations we find ourselves in.  If you keep reliving events but never dealing with the emotions surrounding them, you’re creating more suffering in your life.  No matter how painful an emotion, deal with it in the moment it arises and your life will be effortless.  Choose to clear the air now for your health.

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A nice reminder to consider when you feel an emotion stir,

 The Presence is the Present ~ Gift yourself with Presence!
Nothing is more important than your Emotional Well-Being!

SOUL = SOL or SOLE = SUN (inner & outer!)  Seems befitting there would be a connection between the Sun and the Moon with Emotion as the Soul’s mode of communication.  The Sun is typically associated with how people see you from the outside while the Moon is your inner world.  The relationship is in how balance is created by bringing the darkness to the light; it’s illuminating what needs attention.  Focus in on your feelings when emotions rise and work through them in that moment so you aren’t carrying around the heaviness of them on your shoulders later.  

I choose my happiness ~ it’s not conditional, just subjective to my own conditioning!   A smile begets a smile and nurtures the mind, body, and soul; while anger festers and kills from the inside out.

What do you choose? 

~ Lana A. LaBonte

I feel it’s time for us to face our fears and deepest emotions for what they’re trying to evoke in us!  Most of the time we think, “I don’t want to upset the boat,” meanwhile, it’s your boat that no longer floats and risks sinking.  Do yourself and everyone involved the service to speak up when you feel that uneasy sensation in your gut because nobody wins with assumptions, unspoken or repressed feelings.

Want to feel “ease” in your life?

Don’t let it get to that breaking point, eliminate the dis~ease from you mind, body, and soul!

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Take your emotions more seriously and nurture them.  This is the first sign of love you can demonstrate for YOU, when you can coddle those sensitivities that arise in you like you would a child.  I guarantee the more you tap into these Senses of your Soul, the smoother and lighter your life will feel.  Emotions won’t be so scary and feeling will take on a whole new meaning!  This is where life is about finding balance ~ in learning our body language and mastering it!

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~**~   Learn your inner language & feel its message!  Your Soul counts on you to be its best expression of itself so, live this life fully ~ Emotions & All!    ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

What is Selfless Love?

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On this particular day, Rhonda Byrne’s Secret Scrolls got me thinking:

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Love is the highest power we possess to be in complete harmony with the law of attraction. The more love we feel the greater our power. The more selfless love we feel, the more unfathomable our power.

The law of attraction has been called the law of love, because the law itself is a gift of love to humanity. It is the law by which we can create incredible lives for ourselves.

The more love we feel the greater our power to create a magnificent life of love, joy, and harmony.

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret joy for billions

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What is Selfless Love?

In the beginning, the price of giving great love is risking that it won’t be returned.  Until you understand, of course, that great love is always returned.  With interest.”

~ Mike Dooley

What can you truly say you know of Selfless Love?  How do You define it?  How do you demonstrate it in your daily life?

Selfless love means to love regardless of your personal needs. You love whole heartedly without loving yourself, without any personal gain.  It is the opposite of selfish love.”

~ Ask.com

How many people truly understand what Selfless Love IS?  Well, simply stated, it means loving without any attachment to an expectation in return!  It means whatever you do you do it from your Heart.  This comes purely from a place within you which has no preconceived expectation of accolades, acknowledgement, or reciprocity in return.  From this place, You Express a deeply profound Ecstatic Love in that moment in time.  There is no thought of personal gain or satisfaction in that moment.  You just DO because it feels so good to give of yourself!

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Most of us misinterpret what we think love is based on our experiences but then, how we demonstrate it gets muddied by attaching conditions to it!  It is in these attachments to our expectations we are most sadly misled into our self-created suffering!  These expectations are the same as the personal gain we pursue and strive for in our daily lives.  We call this Selfish.

So, it’s easy for us to do this because it’s so deeply embedded into our subconscious to where we think we do things for others out of love but then, we ruin it by getting upset when they don’t acknowledge it in some fashion.  THAT right there is the antithesis of selfless!

It’s in fact, selfish to expect anyone to respond to you the way you want them to based on what you do for them.  Besides, how many people even communicate their expectations of what they want in return? 

Talk about expecting too much!

This is the drama/trauma scenario we create in our lives and how we perpetuate our own Suffering!

Anytime you do something, do it from your entire Heart without any expectation in return.  Even if you think a smile would be a nice Confirmation and Validation of your loving action, Surrender to the possibility you may never see a result from it in that moment, or ever.  The more you do this, the more you may begin to see your world changing outside of you for the better…but then, remember not to get attached to any idea that your actions should and will result in something your mind can conceive because, when you least expect it, the things you will witness will far exceed any expectations you could ever have! 

Going within ripples out in energetic waves as love expressed begets love experienced.  This is only the beginning, it starts from the inner work, our going inside…

When I give, I give myself.”

~ Walt Whitman

LoveIsWayneDyer

Love begins within and so when you seek to love another, first ask yourself if you love yourself.  If you’re not there yet, consider nurturing and cultivating your own Self Love; for we cannot fully love another without first knowing it for and in our Self!  All of these wonderful virtues like love, patience, compassion, trust, forgiveness, commitment, and understanding have to start with our Self before we can even extend it to another.

10WaysToLove~Heart

Pure love arises when distinction dies. Only when the mind is devoid of judgments can distance and division also disappear. The sense of division widens when we dwell on flaws in others, and it dissolves when we practice Agape. 
Love is not something you can acquire or give; it is something you become. 
When we become love, compassion springs forth spontaneously and manifests as loving-kindness distributed equally to all, just like both sun and rain fall everywhere alike without calculation or making preferences…  
Like a smile, compassion can prove contagious, inspiring others to pass it along through random selfless acts of kindness.”

~ Rama Devi Nina Marshall  http://voices.yahoo.com/selfless-love-vs-selfish-love-difference-6011320.html

Everyone wants to feel loved but rarely do we consider how we must demonstrate what that is through our own actions and interactions with others.  How you express yourself is how others will treat you.  If you want to be loved, you have to exhibit it in your presence.

TrueLove

~**~   Seek True Love by demonstrating it in every thought, spoken word, action & deed you express.  Pour forth from your Heart that which you want to experience yourself ~ Live Love ~ Experience it through BEing in Love & OF Love!  Let Love Begin With You in Everything You Do! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[a] it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

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