⚜ Do Something Different! ⚜


💫⚜ Do Something Different! 💫

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Change is Constant so why not ride the wave & surf with it!?

What scares you?

Do you already anticipate a particular outcome to a familiar situation?

How about try a different approach.  Change your mindset about how you think things will turn out & consider it as unfamiliar…

Ask yourself, “How can I see this situation differently?”


Are you willing to change up your routine with ease or does it bring up discomfort for you?  It’s easy to become habitual and caught up in a routine that stunts your growth.  Life is not meant to be mundane but after a lifetime of routine, life feels more restrictive and less enjoyable!


The more we step out of our comfort zone, the easier it is for us to embrace fear that keeps us from moving forward in our lives!


What we fear is what we actually need to do the most!
~ Lana A. LaBonte

Just look back on your life when you were hesitant or resistant to doing something that felt unfamiliar and uncomfortable. It didn’t turn out so bad, did it!?  Can you recall the weight lifted off of your shoulders once you did it? Did you find it much easier once you did it rather than what you originally thought?


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~**~ Step outside the box & into the unknown! ~*♥*~
You never know how much you’ll grow until you do something different!
Love & Light Blessings! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~


💫⚜ The Importance of Communication! ⚜💫


💫⚜ The Importance of Communication! 💫

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The reason most relationships suffer and people get upset is because of lack of communication, failure to communicate, miscommunications & misunderstandings in communication.


As women, we assume so much but rarely take time to ask for the clarification- for many reasons from not wanting to nag or out of simple habit of avoiding confrontation.  Our mind can go out of control…

With men, they need help because of their own habits and unawareness.  They don’t always know nor get what we women do so we need to work with them.


The reality is it’s all about being transparent & Communicating clearly & effectively between one another!

Awareness is Key!

“When you know better, you do better!” ~ Maya Angelou

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~**~ Remember Communication is all about Love! ~*♥*~
We all seek to connect in order to feel love through our many forms of communicating.  May all your words bring Loving Intentions & Uplift those around you!  Love & Light Blessings! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

⚜ What Will You Release On This Full Moon? ⚜

⚜ What Will You Release On This Full Moon? ⚜

Are You Ready to ReWrite The Story You’ve Been Living Over & Over Again?

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~**~ You are a powerful Manifestor – You create your life with every word you speak, thought you have, action you take, & story you tell!  ~*♥*~
How are you going to enable your Soul to Soar & your Heart beat with passion?  Many Blessings of Love & Light as you Re-Ignite your inner Spark! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

Vulnerability ~ Tolerance & Compassion


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Vulnerability ~ Tolerance & Compassion

What we Resist in others teaches us what we resist in ourselves

If someone rubs you, can you step back in observation of
“Where is this originating?”

What is it about the person that bothers you?

Can you recognize yourself in their behavior?

If you’re truly honest with yourself, this will be extremely humbling!


The other day I was reminded of how when people feel overly comfortable with me but yet, I still feel a resistance towards them.

WOW!  I am able to trace it back to how I used to try too hard for people to like me or get attention.  It’s no surprise that being able to connect with someone makes us feel secure!

Isn’t it ironic that we all want attention and we can witness when someone is extremely needy but still reject them.  But ultimately the best thing we can do is to embrace them because there’s clearly a reason for it!


One reason we resist them is because of their vulnerability – it brings up the issue of trust. They don’t appear stable to us so we feel they’re not trustworthy; we sense their insecurity!  We can only know these things from our own experiences!  It’s that the trust they don’t feel within themselves makes us dis-trust their inauthentic behavior of trying to be what they’re not in order to be accepted for what they are.

What we see is our own Vulnerable Self mirrored back at us!

I can actually look back and remember how much I would try so hard in interactions with people to feel included by trying so hard to please, appease, please, find things to say, or anything I thought would draw them closer to me.  At the same time, I can look back and remember the feeling of being rejected.  I can see how I was trying so hard it would actually repel them. But I also remember how it hurt, my efforts were too much and I didn’t feel accepted.


~**~ So, the next time someone appears too needy to you, stop and consider they’re probably hungry for human connection and need your compassion the most!
We all want to be seen, heard, and accepted and embraced for who we are!   It’s all about Love! Greet everyone you meet with Love & Compassion! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

How Do You Love?



How Do You Love?

Unconditionally or Conditionally …?

You can’t fix someone else!  It all starts with Self and if you are constantly trying to get someone else to meet your expectations for you to feel better, then you’re loving Conditionally!  You cannot expect a person to be a certain way in order for you to love them… Unconditional Love means accepting a person exactly as they are without putting “conditions” upon how they should be.

“Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny–he has something to fulfill, some message has to be delivered, some work has to be completed. You are not here accidentally–you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you. The whole intends to do something through you.”
― Osho

Why do people enter into relationships and later want to change the other?  Most often we’ve fallen into the conditioning where we are guilted into helping everyone else around us as if we know what they need.  We’re not nurtured how to be healthy and whole ourselves, which is most needed and necessary.

Eventually we may find another person is triggering an old wound and it’s rubbing us raw.  So, most won’t recognize this in themselves if they haven’t healed their own wounds.  Again, it’s easier to project our stuff on someone else than to actually look at it. 

Do you see your own wounds in another? 

Do you know what triggers you? 

How do you relate to the people you claim to love? 

Do you see yourself as a Savior?  Be careful of your Ego…

~**~ The next time you feel you know what someone else needs, ask yourself if you’re putting conditions on the love you give another!  Reach deep down for this awareness & have compassion for yourself; because, maybe it’s you who really needs to be accepted in order for you to accept others as they are!  Many Blessings of Love! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~




ANGER Can Teach You What Is Really Going On Within!

Anger shows you care & it means you are on the verge of “This shit stops NOW!  I want to feel better than this …it’s time for change!” ♥

Emotions are our signals to shift or pay attention to what’s really going on below the surface!  The Ego goes through emotions…not the heart!  The Ego knows something is up and it will fight to stay alive and in control!

Getting Angry shows you care!  If you didn’t get angry, it would mean you didn’t care…think about that!  Also reflect upon the times you’ve said “oh, I don’t care…” but you really were angry! You allowed it to have a power over you by holding onto that anger!

When you truly don’t care, you can brush it off and release it! It has no power over you.


Do you want to know what the real cancer of life is? Anger, bitterness, resentment, animosity, blame, shame, seething & loathing toward another, circumstances, self, life…. Your Anger is really toward yourself and it’s sucking the life force out of you! 

It’s being unhappy with where you’re at and comparing yourself to everything around you and the ideal that you have in your mind for the life that you expect you should have!

It’s the victim mentality that keeps you stuck in misery!

It’s that story you keep telling that you keep living and doesn’t resemble anything remotely close to what you really want!


Cancer is what eats us from the inside out… It’s not what’s going on outside of us or around us. It’s everything accumulated in the body brought on by the mind… destructive thoughts feelings emotions turn into distraction in your physical body, in your external world.

Cancer = Carcinogen/Canker = scorching you from within – not from the external!

When you continue to feed cancer what it thrives on, it grows… Anger is it’s fuel!
Even I recognize it in my own physical body! It’s when I’m inflamed, extreme pain, achy joints & bones or muscles…

Telling a story is like reliving the experience!!!  It’s important to choose the story you tell because it will dictate the life you continue to live.

Emotions come from the Ego Mind!   When we’re Emotional, we’re Irrational!

Drink water to rebalance emotions…Why?  Because we’re 70% water and water influences our emotions; energy in motion needs to be allowed to flow!  Emotions rising mean we’re imbalanced!  True balance is achieved when we can maintain calm surrounded by the chaos!


Where do you feel Anger in your body? 

Can you tap into what rises up, sit with it and allow it to be fully embraced – fully felt – fully released?  We need to feel our emotions fully in order for them to heal fully!

~**~  Embrace your Anger & recognize the gift of expansion it is bringing you ~ The Awareness of You!  Many Blessings of Love!  ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~





The Mind is always looking to change things but we’re actually quite resistant to change.  Despite that, everything is in a constant state of change that we cannot even see. 

How ironic is that!?

Well, it’s simple!

The Mind wants to change all the external things around us but it’s really distracting us from making the truly powerful internal changes within us we need to make – the ones the Ego Mind fears will remove/destroy it!  The Mind wants to keep busy to avoid disintegration – this is what it fears most!
So, it works in survival mode to also keep you from doing anything that will do eliminate it but we still need it.
We just need to train it to serve us in a constructive manner.

The Mind wants to believe it knows everything & will disguise itself as your strong will but that’s just a coverup.  Of course the Mind serves us well, but can you see where it may have actually caused you more suffering because it was stubborn!?


The very thing we fear most is the very thing we need to confront!  So as to disprove the Ego Mind of all its illusions…it’s only real if we buy into the story!

What keeps you stuck in your life? 

What changes are you resistant to?

Do you realize this is really your Mind just trying to maintain control over a part of your life to feel secure in the rest… Whereas, in other areas, you may not have control where you wish you had!? 

Portrait of a boy with the map of the world painted on his face.


A close friend of mine is an amazing hair stylist and just started working with a new hair color line and she wants to give me a makeover.  So, I picked out some pictures of styles & colors I like & posted them on Pinterest.  This would be a big change for me since I haven’t colored it in 3 years! 

Now I’m starting to think it’s just my not wanting to change that has me stuck in a pattern of control where maybe I might be better off trying something new!

Wow!  What a reflection on that one!

We get so easily stuck in our routines that we don’t even see that it’s a comfort zone of what we have control over to keep us feeling safe!

She wants to cut it though and that’s where I’m most resistant! 

Do I really want to cut it?  No.  Because it’s easy to maintain, easy to throw up…I don’t currently live the life I used to where I was styling it all the time but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to.  It means I want to keep it simpler and easier than I did in the past where it did cause a lot of damage & took up so much time but at what cost!?  Hmm…

It’s a challenge for most to Trust, Surrendering to the possibility that things could actually improve – as opposed to the Ego Mind trying convince you of the worst case scenario!

What we rarely consider is that it’s how we’re guided to make changes in our lives…

To upgrade what we’ve been living to what will be even better for us!


I totally get and also understand how the Mind can overwhelm us with the struggles of what it perceives.  Essentially your Perception is your Reality!

“There’s always something deep seated within our psyche causing us anxieties, fears, & emotions that drives our choices…”

It’s just that most people aren’t remotely aware of it because it’s usually something we’ve suppressed and don’t want to look at.  The only way to really know what it is is to really sit with and get to know yourself.

That takes a lot of courage and desire to make serious changes in your life.  But I can tell you from my own personal experience it’s one of the best things you could ever do for yourself!

Want to see the people around you change for the better?  That’s exactly what you start to see.


Of course, it doesn’t happen at first because other people will resist you and that in itself can cause you pain because it’s the feeling you’re being rejected or judged & criticized for doing something good for yourself from the very people you surround yourself with who typically validate what you already do.

Their reactions are merely a reflection of those people who don’t want to change and feel threatened by your efforts to change.  They also want to feel comfortable with themselves – validated by you!  So, they will want you to stay the same so they don’t have to change but change truly is inevitable!

One of the most profound reminders I had over the past few days is how what you witness and the environment you are in influences you as if you are actually experiencing what you’re seeing!

Those impressions actually co-create and influence your own life as if that was you.  Just like they proved that listening to classical music increases one’s intelligence, studies have also shown that listening to degrading and offensive rap music will also keep those in an impoverished life.

I’m not talking about major changes we see on the surface.  It all starts with the Mind!  Our thoughts, beliefs, patterns of behavior all start in the Mind which influence our actions and behaviors!  Those are the changes that ripple out with more impact!

If you trace back all your thoughts to the root, it will reveal an underlying fear that drives you to do what you do.


“It’s all about getting back to the real root cause.  The one that we rarely allow ourselves to face!”

Sure, I know things and can pick up things people don’t say but it’s not my place to enforce or try to push someone to do something they may not be ready to do.

Everyone should be able to choose for themselves. I have to honor what the person is willing and ready for because I also know how hard it was for me. 

For a long time when I was unhappy, people would tell me to be happy and all that did was piss me off more!  – No, REALLY!!!  😁

I found I was more resistant to changes when people tried to tell me what I should do.  I recognized that in myself and see how it was all my Ego – how it held me back from change because my Ego hadn’t initiated the idea, shift, or change.

Who were they to tell me what I needed!

Meanwhile, I didn’t even know what I needed… That’s the funny thing about the Ego Mind!  It insists on knowing everything even when it has no clue.  It makes stuff up all the time, most of the time, heckeverything you think is really made up by your Ego based on your perception!  Your Mind has created stories you’ve bought into.


It can be an ass and keep you from being open to things when it’s so strong & rigid! 😁😜 

But here’s the kicker!  Whenever you are resisting any change in your life or facing something new in your life, it’s usually a sign of good things to come.

What I’ve learned to do is to get excited at the resistance I feel now because I’ve learned over time that whenever I’ve felt it bubbling up, it’s turned out to have been right before I’ve had a major breakthrough, change, or shift in my life for the better!  Not always so obvious at the moment until much later.


I love this reminder of how something in our subconscious knows something is coming – this is the energy field of catharsis.

Anytime your are resisting it’s because something good is on the horizon – a shift, a healing, coming back to Self & Source!

I see this with going to Winter Solstice, before I teach, before I make a video, encounter someone I like… It’s like a push-pull of excitement to proceed but considering not going for some inner fear of what’s coming that’s actually already known within. 


This is the true beauty of the unknown that is already known – we have this inner knowing that we cannot explain.  BUT why don’t we trust it?  Again, that pesky Mind gets in the way and because it’s been running the show for so long, we rarely challenge it.

So, why not take a chance on Change for a change!?


~**~ May you see through the eyes of gratitude the Blessings that Change brings to your life!  There’s nothing better than embracing your resistance to the unknown ~ Love & Light! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

Heart Over Head



Heart Over Head

How can you tell which one you’re coming from…

Just think of how you would answer the question:
“Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”

How you answer this shows you if your Ego Mind needs to prove a point or if your Heart compassionately seeks Balance & Harmony!DistanceHeartHeadQuote

I can tell you that my Ego was so good at buttering me up it told me how much of a good person I was… That I did all these wonderful things for people who didn’t reciprocate or recognize them or me….

But I didn’t see how I was actually expecting how they responded in return versus just being who I was naturally…because there is a subtle old programming of culture that teaches us that “if we do good, we will receive it in return.”HeartCaresQuoteI believed I was doing something good from my Heart but essentially it was still coming from my Ego.  I was attached to a specific outcome – I hadn’t learned that I was really doing things for the wrong reasons.  It was my ideal expected outcome so deeply rooted within my unconscious/subconscious that I felt would give me the feeling of being loved. I had held the belief of how that looked – recognition & reciprocal deeds/behaviors!!!

Nothing anyone did was going to give me love if I wasn’t giving from the Heart first!  In fact, you cannot truly give without receiving when you give from the Heart!  When you give from the attached Ego, you are unable to receive fully!

What energy are you putting out there? 

Do you see your true intentions behind your thoughts & actions?

Live In Joy!  Change your Focus & Live for your Joy Versus your focus on fears that do not exist!


~**~ May Your Heart & Soul guide your way to new found Joy!
Many Blessings! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

Can You Truly Relax?



~ ~ Can You Truly Relax? ~ ~

Can you truly Relax? 

I mean really feel the tension release out of your body.

It’s really about Trust… Like everything else, it starts with trusting yourself!

It comes back to an underlying inability to trust ourselves fully because our mind doesn’t allow us to think we should relax – because in the mind, it says “we shouldn’t, we can’t” because we’re not meant to.

Even when we think we’re relaxed our body is tensed up in response to the mind.


Haven’t you ever had someone say to you “relax!”?

They could visibly see your discomfort but your response was “I am relaxed!”

See, it’s easy for others to see our physiology or physical state reflecting what we cannot see for ourselves!

The next time you lay yourself down to sleep, notice if you are stiff or tense…start to pay attention to where you have tension!

Speak lovingly to your body and ask it to relax the different muscles, neck, bones, face, jaw, back, spine…breathe into these areas mindfully and feel yourself melt into your bed and drift off into a peaceful relaxed sleep.  Do this often and see what changes it brings for you in your daily life.


Sweet Dreams!

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~**~ May you sleep with comfort & ease! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

Mind Body Soul Connection



~  Mind, Body, Soul Connection  ~ ~

Connect to Your Soul By Aligning the Mind & Body!

Do you realize your Body Is Your Temple housing the Divine!❤

You nourish it, not only with what you eat, but also what you think, speak, inflict upon it, & every move you make because of the connection between mind, body, and soul.

It’s all about the Mind, Body, Soul Connection!

In order to achieve a true connection between all three, the Holy Trinity, we need to heal the mind & body first.  They have to be aligned & in harmony with one another to connect fully with soul.

You must feed the soul through proper nourishment of the body via the mind first!  Everything originates in the Mind…



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~**~ Thank you!  I am Blessed beyond words & Grateful for all of you who follow my videos & read my Blog!  May you Be Blessed in all areas of your Mind, Body, & Soul!  ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~


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