So I was driving on my way to Yoga when this idea pop into my mind:
“Each and every one of us is supporting, contributing, and shaping our path and purpose in this life!”
I envisioned how, if we accept the evolution into the person we are today, through each and every experience we’ve had leading up to this moment, then, yes, without each other, we would not be where we are, who we are, and with this experience to continue to aid us – no matter how you judge those particular experiences.
See, the route I take to my studio is filled with lights. Unfortunately, 2 more were added and just stopping at them adds another 10 minutes on an already half hour drive – as long as there isn’t traffic or an accident. Years ago I realized how obsessed we are with being on time even if we’re early. Well, one morning I was running a few minutes late because of a few delays. As I neared my destination, I saw an accident. At that moment, it struck me how we’re Divinely Guided in this life and that everything truly does happen for a reason, at the perfect time, and not when we want but when it really needs to. From that moment on, I have focused on allowing my life to flow naturally.
So, just driving down the road, my simple way to describe how we support one another is in how we move in and around, through the flow of traffic. Do you get upset at others and take their actions as personal attacks at you as if they know your moves on the open road? Sounds silly when you think about it, doesn’t it!?
I’ve heard my Dad get upset and I try to remind him to “just let it go!”
To which, he now jokes with a little dance waving his hands like he’s freeing a bird chirping, “Let it go, let it go, just let it go…” See there’s really nothing about driving that’s personal. We just tend to make it personal and about us, as if it matters. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter and we waste so much time and energy by focusing on it.
It’s a divine dance we’re living but hidden within heavy layers of media-driven drama and so-called advanced technology pushing us further from really connecting to what is driving us internally and what truly supports life. This is what we really need to focus on, this internal power source!
After a beautiful Yogic flow, I had come out of a meditation realizing something so simple and already known as clearer to me now and building upon my earlier insights:
As you focus on something, it becomes illuminated! This is how energy builds, through focus! Your focus becomes the Light while everything else around it becomes Dark, a blur out of focus.
Just as putting a lens into focus, this is how we find ourselves creating duality in life – by naming, separating, categorizing, labeling, and grouping everything. Life isn’t so complicated, we just make it this way with the tools and behavior we’ve picked up along our journey. Now, we just need to take a better look and pay attention to what we focus on!
Whatever or wherever you focus becomes illuminated!
This is your reality and how your vision becomes highlighted and ultimately manifests in life. There truly is no dark or light but lack of focus and energy; also known as attention! Does something exist if you have never seen it, imagined or given it thought, or had a focus on it? Certainly! Look at indigenous people who live without technology, as in “The Gods Must Have Been Crazy,” where they have no idea of anything outside of their environment.
Seeing it from a personal perspective, everything is equal when you don’t put your focus on something – this is ENERGY! On the impersonal level, all energy flows, equally connected and has no time nor focus. All is equal, it’s just us who shifts the energy of it through our focus. ALL just IS! Everything is on the same level but it’s your focus that changes the Energy, or importance you’ve given it!
Keeping with focus, allows you to become clear in your own life.
We cannot change another person’s focus or ever know what it may be but we can tune in to our own focus to see how it’s shaped our lives and attitudes. This is the first step to getting to know how we’ve created our own life!
Make peace with where you feel you’ve wasted your time and energy while identifying how this focus is no longer serving you and release it. We don’t need to remain prisoners of our own thoughts, actions, or behaviors. Work on YOU because you’re a Blessing deserving of love who is worth all that and more – make YOU the focus of Integrity, Strength and Character! Lead by example and others will follow.
Life isn’t so difficult! It’s when you see your focus everything becomes clear ~ Out of Focus Comes Clarity!
Can You Clearly Now?
Sending you Love & Light Blessings of Clarity!
Monday morning Breathing, Meditation & Gong session had just completed and, as is customary, Michelle closed with the following poem:
“My beloved child, break your heart no longer.
Each time you judge yourself, you break your own heart.
You stop feeding on the love which is the wellspring of your vitality.
The time has come.
And to see the goodness that you are.
You, my child, are divine.
You are pure.
You are sublimely free.
Let no one, no thing, no idea or ideal obstruct you.
If one comes, even in the name of ‘Truth’, forgive it for its unknowing.
Do not fight.
You are God in disguise and you are always perfectly safe.
Do not fight the dark. Just turn on the light.
Let go and breathe into the goodness that you are.”
~ Swami Kripalvanandaji (Bapuji)
Wow, “Each time you judge yourself, you break your own heart.”
That line really struck me! Not only does it mean judging myself is a complete put-down to who I am but a let-down to the whole purpose of living this life in human form. It’s an insult to life itself and a setup to failure. Why do we allow ourselves to get caught in this trap? We certainly didn’t come into this life with this self-degrading behavior. Our society is so critical it conditions us to be engaged in constant judgement, cluttering our minds with junk that doesn’t really matter. While our true nature is love, this means we have learned some seriously bad behaviors.
To go even further into what this line means to me, it also means I need to consider any judgement I may make of another as an immediate judgement upon myself – once again, breaking my own heart. Nobody is better or worse than the other. It takes a lot to see how we really are all connected in this life but we are. More importantly, how we each contribute to each other’s experience. Clearly, how we judge our experiences is based on our previous experiences, which doesn’t ultimately determine the outcome – although, the attitude does. The good or bad is only the perceived necessity to categorize everything in our life. We’re taught by family, in schools, and through socializing/group settings how to fit in and conform to what has assumably been laid out as our life. Who came up with this idea that we must belong to a group or measure up to some predefined ideal?
Each one of us is special so when we look at someone else and make a comparison, the same as a judgement, consider if you would appreciate the same in return and how you would feel because this is where we fall short. Whether your comparison is intended to lift you up by putting down another or is in jealousy of another by denigrating yourself with thoughts of not being good enough, you’re doing yourself a disservice. The Ego denies the Heart what is True!
Life is meant to be embraced with Love, lived fully, authentically, and with Integrity. The next time you catch yourself in a moment of judgement, reflect and ask yourself “who does this serve?”
This life is too short to be short-sighted and judgmental upon others or your Self! Be patient and kind ~ Start, most importantly, with that kindness extended to YOU! In the end, everything starts with Self and the more you work on You, others benefit.
Until next time, allow this day carry you through the Divine Flow of this Blessed Human experience!
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Pranayama ~ The science of breath which leads to the creation, distribution, and maintenance of vital energy.” ~ BKS Iyengar
Over the course of my life I’ve noticed I have moments when I can’t get a complete breath, or cycle of a yawn. The sensation of a heaviness sitting on my chest, it happens in times when I seem stressed and unable to keep focused. Ironic! This recently came up as I’ve been doing some Energy Work and working on my past by delving into areas to heal.
So, I realize many of us don’t take time to tune into our breath as we move throughout our daily life but it is what keeps us alive ~ it is the LIFE FORCE!
If you’re one who actively meditates, does yoga, runs, or does any sort of exercise activity, you’ve probably noticed how important it is to pace your breath in order to continue with your activity. Well, it’s just as important in all of our daily activities. As an avid yogini, student and teacher, my focus during a practice is to move with the breath. Just as when I meditate, it’s about tuning-in, connecting with the breath and going within. But, this doesn’t always seem to continue outside of the studio.
I see how far I’ve evolved to being more patient and kinder to myself and I also recognize this is a constant awareness we need to tap into. I no longer choose to allow things that once upset me to steal my breath, energy, or focus. I do admit it took a lot of attention to the breath, personal curiosity, a desire to change my life, research and reading, speaking with others, and becoming more aware of old thought and behavioral patterns. All of this required taking personal responsibility and acknowledging what I was manifesting in my life!
It is a lot of work but more importantly, I believe if you can start by becoming more aware of your breath, you will eventually start to recognize your thought patterns, which distract from slow, steady breathing. If the breath flows smoothly, so does everything else in life!
Here are some questions you can ask yourself:
- Do you have trouble breathing or breathing problems?
- Do you pay attention to when you are holding your breath? Do you see the root cause of this?
- Do you have trust in your own judgement?
- When you’re in a moment of crisis or stress, do you have a fight or flight reaction? Do you allow yourself to step back and take a deep breath before you evaluate the situation or do you pounce on it with impervious fervor?
- What really gets under your skin and why do you let it steal your breath, energy, attention?
- When do you find yourself the most calm breathing in and out long, steady, and controlled breaths?
- Do you see how you may be able to be more focused?
- Do you have faith that everything will work out in the end?
“In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunity.”
~ Albert Einstein
When it all comes down to it, the breath is your life force and without it, you cannot live. How your breath moves in and through your body is a directly reflected in your life. How does your life flow – like mud, a rambling brook, or a smooth flowing river? Look at how your life is and then key into if you’re actually breathing through it! Are you engaged or are you going through habitual motions? Tune-in, become aware of your inner world and how it’s reflected in the breath.
I wish you happy days filled with joy, laughter, & deep belly breathing!
Choose wisely where you place your attention/focus because your energy is precious and shouldn’t be wasted!
Love and Light Blessings,