What is Selfless Love?

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On this particular day, Rhonda Byrne’s Secret Scrolls got me thinking:

From The Secret Daily Teachings

Love is the highest power we possess to be in complete harmony with the law of attraction. The more love we feel the greater our power. The more selfless love we feel, the more unfathomable our power.

The law of attraction has been called the law of love, because the law itself is a gift of love to humanity. It is the law by which we can create incredible lives for ourselves.

The more love we feel the greater our power to create a magnificent life of love, joy, and harmony.

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… joy for billions

What is Selfless Love?

In the beginning, the price of giving great love is risking that it won’t be returned.  Until you understand, of course, that great love is always returned.  With interest.”

~ Mike Dooley

What can you truly say you know of Selfless Love?  How do You define it?  How do you demonstrate it in your daily life?

Selfless love means to love regardless of your personal needs. You love whole heartedly without loving yourself, without any personal gain.  It is the opposite of selfish love.”

~ Ask.com

How many people truly understand what Selfless Love IS?  Well, simply stated, it means loving without any attachment to an expectation in return!  It means whatever you do you do it from your Heart.  This comes purely from a place within you which has no preconceived expectation of accolades, acknowledgement, or reciprocity in return.  From this place, You Express a deeply profound Ecstatic Love in that moment in time.  There is no thought of personal gain or satisfaction in that moment.  You just DO because it feels so good to give of yourself!

Most of us misinterpret what we think love is based on our experiences but then, how we demonstrate it gets muddied by attaching conditions to it!  It is in these attachments to our expectations we are most sadly misled into our self-created suffering!  These expectations are the same as the personal gain we pursue and strive for in our daily lives.  We call this Selfish.

So, it’s easy for us to do this because it’s so deeply embedded into our subconscious to where we think we do things for others out of love but then, we ruin it by getting upset when they don’t acknowledge it in some fashion.  THAT right there is the antithesis of selfless!

It’s in fact, selfish to expect anyone to respond to you the way you want them to based on what you do for them.  Besides, how many people even communicate their expectations of what they want in return? 

Talk about expecting too much!

This is the drama/trauma scenario we create in our lives and how we perpetuate our own Suffering!

Anytime you do something, do it from your entire Heart without any expectation in return.  Even if you think a smile would be a nice Confirmation and Validation of your loving action, Surrender to the possibility you may never see a result from it in that moment, or ever.  The more you do this, the more you may begin to see your world changing outside of you for the better…but then, remember not to get attached to any idea that your actions should and will result in something your mind can conceive because, when you least expect it, the things you will witness will far exceed any expectations you could ever have! 

Going within ripples out in energetic waves as love expressed begets love experienced.  This is only the beginning, it starts from the inner work, our going inside…

When I give, I give myself.”

~ Walt Whitman

Love begins within and so when you seek to love another, first ask yourself if you love yourself.  If you’re not there yet, consider nurturing and cultivating your own Self Love; for we cannot fully love another without first knowing it for and in our Self!  All of these wonderful virtues like love, patience, compassion, trust, forgiveness, commitment, and understanding have to start with our Self before we can even extend it to another.

Pure love arises when distinction dies. Only when the mind is devoid of judgments can distance and division also disappear. The sense of division widens when we dwell on flaws in others, and it dissolves when we practice Agape. 
Love is not something you can acquire or give; it is something you become. 
When we become love, compassion springs forth spontaneously and manifests as loving-kindness distributed equally to all, just like both sun and rain fall everywhere alike without calculation or making preferences…  
Like a smile, compassion can prove contagious, inspiring others to pass it along through random selfless acts of kindness.”

~ Rama Devi Nina Marshall  http://voices.yahoo.com/selfless-love-vs-selfish-love-difference-6011320.html

Everyone wants to feel loved but rarely do we consider how we must demonstrate what that is through our own actions and interactions with others.  How you express yourself is how others will treat you.  If you want to be loved, you have to exhibit it in your presence.

~*♥*~   Seek True Love by demonstrating it in every thought, spoken word, action & deed you express.  Pour forth from your Heart that which you want to experience yourself ~ Live Love ~ Experience it through BEing in Love & OF Love!  Let Love Begin With You in Everything You Do! ~*♥*~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

⁴ Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant ⁵ or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;^{[a] 6} it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

⁸ Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

Speak Kindly To YourSelf

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Last week at the end of a Meditation session the following was read aloud.

Talking to the Self:

When you talk to yourself in your mind which self do you address?  And how?  Usually people do not talk to their divinity, but to the most superficial aspects of their everyday personality.  And often it’s a stream of fears, complaints and mindless repetition of old things.  If we talked that way to another human being, we would have to apologize.  Learning to talk properly to the elf is a spiritual endeavor.  Thoughts from the past and worries about the future do not create good conversation.  Instead learn to talk to your mind as if it were a child.  Talk to it with Love.  If you just force a child to sit down, he won’t.  A good mother knows how to prompt her child into doing what she wants.  Be a good mother to your mind, teach it good positive thoughts so that when you tell it to sit quietly, it will.  Love your mind.  Stay Happy!

Unsure who the author is and being of sound advice I wanted to share.

♥ ♥ ♥ Speak, Think, & Cultivate Love withIn YourSelf!  ♥ ♥ ♥

~ Lana

Happy Mother’s Day To All The Divine Feminine Goddesses!

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Happy Mother’s Day to all the Divine Feminine Goddesses!  Let this be your day for Self~Love and Care!

As my previous posts have focused, I have felt the theme of this week has been about Surrendering to Self~Love.  Today being Mother’s Day, who better to remind this but the women who care for all of us.  Being a Mother doesn’t necessarily mean having to give birth because the Divine Feminine is nurturing and has an innate sense to care!  Please do understand we all have both male and female energies but the key is to keep them in balance throughout this life.  Of course, there will be the need for one or the other in a situation but everything always settles into a natural equality when it is honored and allowed to just BE.

As Caregivers, we Women also need to know how and when to nurture Our Self! By demonstrating this we are able to inspire, teach, and pass on the True Nature of Compassionate & Unconditional Love!

I can feel major change in the air and it truly is a time for the Divine Feminine to Shine.  Tuning in and reconnecting with this Personal Power in all of us is so vital to all of Life.  We Women feel the energies around us, whether or not we can explain it.  Now is the time for us to calm them, nurture them, and wield them with Love for all of Life to flourish and strive.

If you don’t believe your True Power or Worth, remember you are LIGHT, you are LIFE, you have been created in LOVE, and YOU are more POWERFUL than your mind will ever let you “think!”  Now is the time to let your Heart loudly sing your praises over it’s previously subtle whispers.  Do what excites you!  Dance your heart out like the Divine Goddess you Are and Awaken to this.  Take time to sit in silent prayer, meditation, or reflective gratitude for the amazing gifts you’ve received in this life ~ Focusing on NOW, the PRESENT.  Make yourSelf a priority ~ if you have children, this will establish respect not only for you by them, but also in them for themselves.  You are a Teacher at all times through your actions and your words.  Mothers do it all, so ensure you do it well and know your Heart is always in it with pleasure ~ this is Your Personal Power!  

Please enjoy this amazing music from Peruquois as it has inspired me on this Blessed day!

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“The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is History. Tomorrow is a Mystery. Today is a Gift. That’s why it is called the PRESENT.”
~ Alice Morse Earle,from the 1902 book, “Sun Dials and Roses of Yesterday: Garden Delights…”

♥ ♥ ♥ Happy Mother’s Day to All the Divine Feminine Goddesses Holding Space For Humanity & Mother Earth, HerSelf!  ♥ ♥ ♥

~ Lana

Sweet Surrender

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This is too often dismissed as Selfish because we’ve been conditioned to believe we must always think of others first.  You have to ♥ Love ♥ yourself first!  How can anyone else love you if you don’t lead by example by showing others how it’s done?  How can you love others if you’re not already versed in Self~Love!? 

True Compassionate & Unconditional Love is contagious!

Just imagine a time when you witnessed a sweet child with their mother and/or father sharing a touching moment that created a warm sensation in your body and bringing a smile to your face.  Why does this radiate with us?  Of course, it brings back those same loving feelings you have had in your past via memories ~ you know how YOU felt and that feeling stayed with you.  Don’t you always want to feel that way?

The other day I read something simply profound, “Death makes Life worth living!”  Although it may be true, I must point to the focus and choice of words.  It almost makes one unconsciously strive toward death or evade it (ironically, this is impossible), instead of simply living and removing this consideration.  The antithesis, “Love makes this Life worth living!” is a much more powerful and positive way to focus our attention, isn’t it!?

So, how can we turn our focus around? 

What are you focusing on?  Is it something that radiates a warm loving feeling?  If it isn’t, try to trace back and center in on what is going through your mind.  Write down your thoughts and how they spiral into different directions.  Trace it back to what feeling you have and why.  You’ll probably find all sorts of emotions bubbling up.  Try not to label them!  Instead, honor them, cry if necessary to cleanse, and allow yourself to feel them before deciding if you’re ready to let go ~ because sometimes we’re not. 

To truly release these feelings, you need to make peace with the situation, people, event, pain, and, most importantly, YourSelf ~ find forgiveness in your heart and send love to all!  You can do this in a meditation or prayer but it may be more effective if you write it as a letter, even if it never reaches anyone, and you may release it symbolically by burning it. 

Keep a small notebook or journal with you at all times and you’ll find tracking and reflecting upon your feelings and thoughts quite effective.  Just start and watch how this simple little exercise can move mountains of fear out of your life! 

Do this for YourSelf!  People will notice the changes and you’ll also see them reacting differently toward you.  Focus on the positive and people will see the positive in You!

Let this day be a day of tuning into Self~LOVE ~ call it Sweet Surrender!

♥ ♥ ♥ Until next time, Find the Gratitude and Always know You Are Loved, ~ BE Blessed! ♥ ♥ ♥

~ Lana