How Do You Love?

Unconditionally or Conditionally …?

You can’t fix someone else!  It all starts with Self and if you are constantly trying to get someone else to meet your expectations for you to feel better, then you’re loving Conditionally!  You cannot expect a person to be a certain way in order for you to love them… Unconditional Love means accepting a person exactly as they are without putting “conditions” upon how they should be.

“Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny–he has something to fulfill, some message has to be delivered, some work has to be completed. You are not here accidentally–you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you. The whole intends to do something through you.”
― Osho

Why do people enter into relationships and later want to change the other?  Most often we’ve fallen into the conditioning where we are guilted into helping everyone else around us as if we know what they need.  We’re not nurtured how to be healthy and whole ourselves, which is most needed and necessary.

Eventually we may find another person is triggering an old wound and it’s rubbing us raw.  So, most won’t recognize this in themselves if they haven’t healed their own wounds.  Again, it’s easier to project our stuff on someone else than to actually look at it. 

Do you see your own wounds in another? 

Do you know what triggers you? 

How do you relate to the people you claim to love? 

Do you see yourself as a Savior?  Be careful of your Ego…

~**~ The next time you feel you know what someone else needs, ask yourself if you’re putting conditions on the love you give another!  Reach deep down for this awareness & have compassion for yourself; because, maybe it’s you who really needs to be accepted in order for you to accept others as they are!  Many Blessings of Love! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~