The Mind is always looking to change things but we’re actually quite resistant to change.  Despite that, everything is in a constant state of change that we cannot even see. 

How ironic is that!?

Well, it’s simple!

The Mind wants to change all the external things around us but it’s really distracting us from making the truly powerful internal changes within us we need to make – the ones the Ego Mind fears will remove/destroy it!  The Mind wants to keep busy to avoid disintegration – this is what it fears most!
So, it works in survival mode to also keep you from doing anything that will do eliminate it but we still need it.
We just need to train it to serve us in a constructive manner.

The Mind wants to believe it knows everything & will disguise itself as your strong will but that’s just a coverup.  Of course the Mind serves us well, but can you see where it may have actually caused you more suffering because it was stubborn!?


The very thing we fear most is the very thing we need to confront!  So as to disprove the Ego Mind of all its illusions…it’s only real if we buy into the story!

What keeps you stuck in your life? 

What changes are you resistant to?

Do you realize this is really your Mind just trying to maintain control over a part of your life to feel secure in the rest… Whereas, in other areas, you may not have control where you wish you had!? 

Portrait of a boy with the map of the world painted on his face.


A close friend of mine is an amazing hair stylist and just started working with a new hair color line and she wants to give me a makeover.  So, I picked out some pictures of styles & colors I like & posted them on Pinterest.  This would be a big change for me since I haven’t colored it in 3 years! 

Now I’m starting to think it’s just my not wanting to change that has me stuck in a pattern of control where maybe I might be better off trying something new!

Wow!  What a reflection on that one!

We get so easily stuck in our routines that we don’t even see that it’s a comfort zone of what we have control over to keep us feeling safe!

She wants to cut it though and that’s where I’m most resistant! 

Do I really want to cut it?  No.  Because it’s easy to maintain, easy to throw up…I don’t currently live the life I used to where I was styling it all the time but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to.  It means I want to keep it simpler and easier than I did in the past where it did cause a lot of damage & took up so much time but at what cost!?  Hmm…

It’s a challenge for most to Trust, Surrendering to the possibility that things could actually improve – as opposed to the Ego Mind trying convince you of the worst case scenario!

What we rarely consider is that it’s how we’re guided to make changes in our lives…

To upgrade what we’ve been living to what will be even better for us!


I totally get and also understand how the Mind can overwhelm us with the struggles of what it perceives.  Essentially your Perception is your Reality!

“There’s always something deep seated within our psyche causing us anxieties, fears, & emotions that drives our choices…”

It’s just that most people aren’t remotely aware of it because it’s usually something we’ve suppressed and don’t want to look at.  The only way to really know what it is is to really sit with and get to know yourself.

That takes a lot of courage and desire to make serious changes in your life.  But I can tell you from my own personal experience it’s one of the best things you could ever do for yourself!

Want to see the people around you change for the better?  That’s exactly what you start to see.


Of course, it doesn’t happen at first because other people will resist you and that in itself can cause you pain because it’s the feeling you’re being rejected or judged & criticized for doing something good for yourself from the very people you surround yourself with who typically validate what you already do.

Their reactions are merely a reflection of those people who don’t want to change and feel threatened by your efforts to change.  They also want to feel comfortable with themselves – validated by you!  So, they will want you to stay the same so they don’t have to change but change truly is inevitable!

One of the most profound reminders I had over the past few days is how what you witness and the environment you are in influences you as if you are actually experiencing what you’re seeing!

Those impressions actually co-create and influence your own life as if that was you.  Just like they proved that listening to classical music increases one’s intelligence, studies have also shown that listening to degrading and offensive rap music will also keep those in an impoverished life.

I’m not talking about major changes we see on the surface.  It all starts with the Mind!  Our thoughts, beliefs, patterns of behavior all start in the Mind which influence our actions and behaviors!  Those are the changes that ripple out with more impact!

If you trace back all your thoughts to the root, it will reveal an underlying fear that drives you to do what you do.


“It’s all about getting back to the real root cause.  The one that we rarely allow ourselves to face!”

Sure, I know things and can pick up things people don’t say but it’s not my place to enforce or try to push someone to do something they may not be ready to do.

Everyone should be able to choose for themselves. I have to honor what the person is willing and ready for because I also know how hard it was for me. 

For a long time when I was unhappy, people would tell me to be happy and all that did was piss me off more!  – No, REALLY!!!  😁

I found I was more resistant to changes when people tried to tell me what I should do.  I recognized that in myself and see how it was all my Ego – how it held me back from change because my Ego hadn’t initiated the idea, shift, or change.

Who were they to tell me what I needed!

Meanwhile, I didn’t even know what I needed… That’s the funny thing about the Ego Mind!  It insists on knowing everything even when it has no clue.  It makes stuff up all the time, most of the time, heckeverything you think is really made up by your Ego based on your perception!  Your Mind has created stories you’ve bought into.


It can be an ass and keep you from being open to things when it’s so strong & rigid! 😁😜 

But here’s the kicker!  Whenever you are resisting any change in your life or facing something new in your life, it’s usually a sign of good things to come.

What I’ve learned to do is to get excited at the resistance I feel now because I’ve learned over time that whenever I’ve felt it bubbling up, it’s turned out to have been right before I’ve had a major breakthrough, change, or shift in my life for the better!  Not always so obvious at the moment until much later.


I love this reminder of how something in our subconscious knows something is coming – this is the energy field of catharsis.

Anytime your are resisting it’s because something good is on the horizon – a shift, a healing, coming back to Self & Source!

I see this with going to Winter Solstice, before I teach, before I make a video, encounter someone I like… It’s like a push-pull of excitement to proceed but considering not going for some inner fear of what’s coming that’s actually already known within. 


This is the true beauty of the unknown that is already known – we have this inner knowing that we cannot explain.  BUT why don’t we trust it?  Again, that pesky Mind gets in the way and because it’s been running the show for so long, we rarely challenge it.

So, why not take a chance on Change for a change!?


~**~ May you see through the eyes of gratitude the Blessings that Change brings to your life!  There’s nothing better than embracing your resistance to the unknown ~ Love & Light! ~**~

~ ♥ Lana A. LaBonte ♥ ~