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~ Dorothy Law Nolte

If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.
If a child lives with fear,
he learns to be apprehensive.
If a child lives with pity,
he learns to feel sorry for himself.
If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with jealousy,
he learns what envy is.
If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns to be confident.
If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with praise,
he learns to be appreciative.
If a child lives with acceptance,
he learns to love.
If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with recognition,
he learns that it is good to have a goal.
If a child lives with sharing,
he learns about generosity.
If a child lives with honesty and fairness,
he learns what truth and justice are.
If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith in himself and in those about him.
If a child lives with friendliness,
he learns that the world is a nice place in which to live.
If you live with serenity,
your child will live with peace of mind. 

With what is your child living?

[Source: Canfield, J. & Wells, H. C. (1976). 100 ways to enhance self-concept in the classroom: A handbook for teachers and patents. Boston: Allyn & Bacon.]


I felt this was an appropriate reflection for today as I have noticed the patterns in my own life and how they’ve affected my behaviors and beliefs spiraling out into my daily life circumstances and relationships with others.  Sometimes we need to reflect within and what our own inner child has endured unnecessarily.  At any point in our life, we have the opportunity to recognize and correct years of suffering just by choosing and adjusting how we think, speak, interact, and relate to the world. 

Upon reading this poem, what emotions did it evoke in you? 

What memories came up?  Where did it bring you in your past?  Can you relate patterns of behavior and beliefs systems you currently have and live?  What does it reveal about you in your present life? 

Are there aspects about your life you would like to change?  By seeing these areas, are you willing to change?  The choice to change has to be a willingness to adopt new patterns to replace the old.  When we make the choice to change, it means courage, persistence, and determination to commit no matter how difficult it may seem.  Start with small baby steps.  This is the best way to approach change.  While even the smallest change leads yet to a bigger one and continues to grow, we must continue to move forward! 

“The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.”

~ Marianne Williamson

~~ I wish you a day filled with in~Sight~ful Steps
Toward the Life you were meant to Live
Filled with Abundant Love ~~
♥ ♥ ♥
~ Lana